joint legal custody

So, Xander calls me tonight and tells me that his baptism was today. I was (and still am) fucking LIVID!! Aaron and I have JOINT LEGAL CUSTODY which is defined as "Legal Custody means the responsibilities associated with raising a child and includes such questions as religious upbringing, school choice, and medical care." RELIGIOUS UPBRINGING !!! Aaron and I talked and I agreed to not interfeering with him taking the kids to church and he agreed that the kids would NOT be baptized until after they were 18 and could make that decision for themselves. I am FURIOUS !!! Is there a way I can have this shit reversed ?? I am so livid that I want to go to court and reduce Aaron's visitation to get the kids back Sunday Morning so he can't take them to church anymore. GRRRRRRR I am so livid that I don't know what to write .. I am gunna go .. until tomorrow .. XoXoX

one proud momma

VTonight was open house at the kids' school. What a great night. We got there early, so I took the kids to the lirary for the book fair. I told them that I would buy them each a book. I spent $10 but the value of reading is SO much more than that. SO, that made me a happy momma. Then we went into the MP room and learned about Parent Link .. we were released to the classrooms. We went to Peyton's room first and I saw some of her work from the past couple weeks and her teacher told me that she'd be calling me about helping out in the classroom. I plan to go in next week. FUN !! So after Peyton's class, we went to Xander's. I spent more time talking to his teacher's husband. I REALLY like oth of the kids' teachers. I told her I would come in and help in class if she needed help and she was very excited. She even hugged me when we were done talking. She is GREAT. On our way out, there was a girl scouts table. I got some information. I want to get Peyton and Xander into scouts. I always had SO much fun when I was in scouts. That is something I want to pass on to my kids. I still need to find out about Peyton's peer mentoring class .. this is just such a long waiting game and it's driving me crazy !! So, perhaps tomorrow I will ask the office again. I feel like such a nag !! GRRRR .. LoL Things are falling into place. There is still an adjustment period, but it'll be good I am sure. Suzie and I get along really well and I am confident in the situation. She and I are super close and this is a HUGE relief for both of us. We are both happier and feel more relaxed and so at ease. I am happy to have my life back .. Ok .. I just had to do some computer repair and now I am not in the mood to type more. I am going to sit back and relax and watch the series finale of LA INK .. been there .. will miss it .. Until tomorrow <3

wet purple nails

Well, last night, I passed the fuck out at like 9pm. I got cumfy on the couch and started playing a game on the phone. And then .. next thing I knew, my alarm was going off at 6am this morning !! HaHa. Then tonight, I was supposed to work from 5:30 to 9:30 tonight .. but my amazing boss let me work 5-9 so I would be home for the season finale of Big Brother 13 !! I am so excited that my favorite player won the game !! YAY !! Rachel Rocks !! My buddy Jonny wanted me to go and hang out tonight. I wanted to go, but I was at work and then I had to come home for Big Brother. I text him afterwards and he was already heading home. BOO .. oh well .. another night. But i like having the option to go out if I want to !! :-) Tomorrow is Open House at the kids' school. I am very excited. I have met and talked to the teachers quite a few times already, but I want to see and discuss some concerns with them already. Xander has trouble staying focused at home .. grrr .. but we will nip it in the bud. I am also going to let Peyton's teacher know the days that I am availale next week if she wants any classroom help. I think that would be fun :-) I will let you know how it goes. We had someone new start at work today (he has been in training but today was his first day in our department) .. come to find out, he is the soon to be brother in law to one of my BEST friends. He and I have known each other for years and it was nice working together and catching up a bit :-) I don't think I will work with him again until Sunday, but that's alright. I should probably hang my work schedule up on the fridge. LoL I got to go grocery shopping today. It is a huge relief knowing that my kids will have something to eat for a few days. LoL. Well, I know it will be for longer than a few days .. but still. I feel like a ad mom when I have to really wonder where the next meal if coming from. It got bad a few times when I was living with John, but he always had a LOT more money than he ever said. So, he never let it get ad enough that I was really worried. So, the past few days, fod was tight but we made it work and now, we have plenty of snacks and stuff too. Ok well my throat hurts and my purple nails are still kinda wet, so I am gunna head out for now .. until tomorrow <3

Crab/lobster bake

Yesterday while I was napping, my new neighbor invied us (me, Suzie, & the kids) over for dinner tonight .. for a crab & lobster bake !! It was so yummy .. but here it is a few hours later and I am STARVING !!! LoL .. didn't fill me up for very long, and I ate like a piggy !!

So, I think I wanna take a trip to Vacavill, Ca soon. I dunno what would be the cheapest way tho .. do I drive or do I try and fly ?? And how long do I stay ?? LoL .. some of those questions I can't answer for myself .. maybe I will look into it .. birthday trip ?? Ok .. I put this on hold and i looked online .. I can get a round trip flight with taxes and everything for less than $90 .. but now, who wants to drive to Stockton to pick me up ?? Hmmm .. maybe do something awesome in San Francisco on my actual birthday .. dinner with a handsome man ?? Hmmm .. we shall see ..

Suzie has been here since I moved in and I have really missed her company. She and I get along so well and we really compliment each other. We help each other out quite a bit .. It just works. Glad she is completely away from RJ. :-)

ok...starving. Gunna heat up the last of the chicken fettuccine alfredo...yum!!

what a GREAT weekend

This was my first weekend being single in a long time and I enjoyed it VERY much. Friday was hella busy with the whole move and then Xander's party .. but it was refreshing!! Anna and Suzie were amazing and I will never be able to thank them enough for all of their help. His party was supposed to be over at 7:30 .. but me, Suzie, Chuck & Jeannine didn't leave till almost 8:30 :-) It was nice just hanging out and enjoying each other's company.

Saturday, I worked and then Suzie and I went out. I stayed out till like 2:30 and didn't have to answer to anyone and I didn't have anyone texting me all night being pissy about me being gone and asking a ton of questions about when I'd be home .. I loved the company and the music and the adorable Havens boys <3

Tonight, I worked and then came home and took a nap. I don't give a fuck what anyone says .. adults can take naps if they want to .. LoL. I felt really refreshed and then I got up and got ready for Nikki's housewarming party. That was a LOT of fun. Her fiance is so funny. I was paying attention to my phone for a while, so he got up, walked over to me, grabbed my hand and said he was going to take me to "consummate our friendship" .. LoL. He gave me the tour of the house. LoL. I ended up making myself a drink: whipped cream flavored vodka, cranberry, & pineapple !! Super yumm !! When I left, I had to take the kids' backpacks to Aaron. We talked for like almost half an hour. He supports my decision in leaving John. That is always nice when that happens.

Well, I am watching Big Brother After Dark .. but stay tuned .. I am going to try writing every night ;-)

I'm Free !!

For just shy of the past 8 months, I was in a horribly miserale relationship. Of course, it wasn't ALL miserable. I really cared until like the past 2 months. On a daily basis, I would cry and he said at least one mean think so me .. sometimes even during sex. I wanted so long to be in a relationship .. but after that one .. I am SOOOO happy to be single !! I am ready to be the happy go lucky loving and active person I used to be.

I went out with one of my girlfriends last night and we had a great time listening to an amazing band !! I have known the drummer for like 13 years or something. LoL. He is a great guy and I am glad we went to support him.

I am ready to hang out with my friends again .. both male and female. I am ready to make my own decisions .. I am ready to have 2 hour phone conversations with my seester again .. I am ready to sit on the couch watching TV, texting, and surfing the web .. I am just ready to be ME !!

<3 <3 <3

50 dangerous things you SHOULD let your kid do!

So, today I heard about a book (http://www.fiftydangerousthings.com/about-the-book) and it has me a bit intrigued. I have been working really hard on giving my kids (especially my 7 1/2 year old son) more responsibility/independence. It is a VERY different world out there now than the one that I grew up in. When I was 7 1/2 I would be out riding my bike with my friends until the street lights came on and I am having big time issues letting my son go across the street without me. I know I need to try some of the things on the list. Thanks to google, here is the list (without having to buy the book) .. (anything in BOLD is stuff I have let my kid(s) do...some of this will be really hard for me to let go a bit more...)

lick a 9 volt battery
play in a hailstorm
master the perfect somersault
kiss hello like the french
stick your hand out the window
drive a nail
drive a car
throw a spear
make a bomb in a bag
play with the vacuum
throw rocks
play with dry ice
boil water in a paper cup
put strange things in the microwave
throw things from a moving car
drop from high places
burn with a magnifying glass
walk home from school
stand on the roof
squash pennies on the railroad tracks
spend an hour blindfolded
bend steel
break glass
construct your own flying machine (i think paper airplaines count)
look at the sun
learn dramatic sword fighting
make a slingshot
climb a tree
perform on the street
dam up a creek
go underground
change a tire
dive in a dumpster
deconstruct an appliance
go to the dump
poison your friends
fly your homemade kite
learn tightrope walking
cook something in the dishwasher
find a beehive
cross town on public transit (my daughter LOVES the double decker busses)
break the recipe rule book
whittle
make a rope swing
play with fire
superglue your fingers together
melt glass
explode a bottle in the freezer
sleep in the wild


Hmmmm .. looks like I have a LOT of letting go to do !! Wish me luck ..